Now that I follow some training folks on Twitter, I have found some pretty witty and relevant quotes, sayings, etc. One of the most recent ones was by @Quinnovator: “learned that I have no problem living up to my mission: “no situation so bad that a bad joke can’t make it worse”.
I know that the statement is not a complete sentence. For those of you who are not on Twitter, all tweets (status posts) can only be 140 characters long. So, many times, we have to do some creative shortening to get the number of characters reduced. From a training point of view, I can VERY much relate to that quote. Many times I have had a successful joke in my head that did not end up that way once it left my mouth.
One time in particular, I was training a group of people that had strained working relationships because of some tensions on the job. I did not know this at the time. We had a late start because I was doing the training after the group got out of another meeting. Since they were running late, I decided to shorten my time at the beginning of class and just cut to the chase and start. BAD, BAD decision!
We were having a good class with some great discussion and good rapport. One student had a bit of trouble and I joked that the computer must not have liked her that day. With a completely straight face, she said that no one there liked her. Right after she said that, there was complete silence. For the rest of the class, the rapport and fun discussion that we had worked so hard to develop earlier had vanished.
I definitely learned my lesson that day. I realized that nothing can replace the few minutes of talking to the students and getting to know everyone a little bit. I realize now how precious those few minutes are. I am a pretty good reader of verbal and non-verbal behavior during that time and can usually sense the group dynamics. Since I decided to skip that beginning introduction, I had a miserable class for most of the day.
After talking to my husband about that quote, he reminded me that it is almost always worth the time to talk for a few minutes with someone. How easy it is to encourage someone or just get a sense of how someone is doing. In business, we have lost the “discussion around the water cooler” time because we are all so busy on our phones or computers. I’m definitely not going to be skipping the beginning of my class anymore, even if we are running a bit late. Hope you will take a little time today to talk with someone and brighten their day with a bit of encouragement!